Ever wonder why you just cannot press that last button to turn in the assignment on time, even when it is done?
Here are some rabbit holes to explore if you’re trying to answer that question.
- What’s the point? You could be experiencing ambivalence about turning in that assignment, flirting with the danger of failing to do so, because pressing the button means that you are one step closer to whatever is next. Do you know what’s next? Are you excited about it? Are you comfortable with not knowing? Maybe zooming out from the “submit” button will help get you some perspective that takes the hesitation out of pressing yes.
- Are you a secret perfectionist? No, no, not you. Of course not. You are low-key, go with the flow, go along-to-get-along kind of person. Right? Well maybe but also maybe not. ADHD is a condition of often very bright people who feel their potential even in the midst of a lifetime of perceived failures. Now that you are finally performing, what if you hit submit and it isn’t a perfect score? What level of performance are you expecting of yourself when you do perform? What can you be comfortable with? Is there a good enough level that is not perfect? Recommended listening: Brene Brown on Vulnerability
- Are you making this too dramatic just for fun? We all love the pressure of a deadline or experience the rush of it regardless. Is this flirtation with danger a game of chicken? What if you paired pressing the button with a better reward? A more welcome rush? What would you need to know or feel or check to be able to press submit? Could you make a checklist? Or set a timer? Recommended listening – Atomic Habits on Spotify
- Hyperfocus much? Focus is such a precious commodity. Is there a bittersweet tension in sending that assignment off? Is the transition out of a successful focus session into the great beyond an emotional hiccup? Is there a mantra you could reassure yourself with to celebrate the end of a focus session and reassure yourself it was worth it and the next will surely come again? Recommended Reading: ADHD 2.0
- Track your thoughts. Become hyper-aware of the circumstances of the moment. What happens inside your mind? What is happening in your physical environment? What thoughts and feelings are passing through? Write them down. Track the logic – however illogical it may seem when you write it out. Find the doubts or questions and create a tool to answer them. Quantify the moment and analyze it.
- Get out of your head. Go on a short walk, do some stretching, down a glass of water. Then return to the button. Ask yourself, “What are you waiting for?” and if there is something specific, schedule when and how you’ll address it. If there is no specific, press send. You can set your criteria ahead of time, like a rubric or a checklist. “I will not submit until I have… X Y and Z.” Then, if you’ve prepared that and checked that, you can make it simpler for your mind to decide to send your finger to the button and apply pressure. Clear it up for your busy brain with your own pre-set metrics.
- Daydream and plan your life. Write your obituary. “Here lies ___________, dead at age ______. They died doing what they loved: ___________. Known for being ____ and _____, they often were found with ______ doing _____. Their greatest achievements were ____ and ____. On their tombstone, they asked their favorite motto be written: ________” Include all your bucket list of what you want to be like, where you want to end up, and what you want around you in your environment or emotional or personal space. I.E. Address the main point of all this. Zoom way way way out until the button is so small and silly that you laugh at thinking about ever questioning pressing it. Recommended tools: Passion Planner